How to build self confidence?
It is a question that many female entrepreneurs ask ….A LOT!
Building self confidence is a key factor in the success of any entrepreneur.
For some reason, women, far more often than men, possess a lack of self confidence in themselves and in their business.
Confidence is the belief in yourself that you can learn new things.
A belief that you can achieve the goals that you set for yourself.
When someone possesses self-confidence, you can see it, you can feel it, they ooze it.
When someone is lacking in confidence, people can see this as well, and then they can start to doubt you…and your business.
The good news is that confidence is a skill that you can develop over time.
It isn’t something that you will master overnight, and will take time to develop.
To start building confidence, you need to start by understanding where you are, today – here and now.
And where you want to go in the future.
For today – you need to take responsibility for your current life, your job, how much money you make and so on. You need to eliminate excuses and blaming people for your situation.
You are where you are today because of the decisions that you have made.
Once you are crystal clear on that, you can then look at where you want to be in 5 years time.
5 years is not that far away so you can believe that it is possible, but far enough away that you can actually make some changes for the better and see the results.
It is time to dream now.
So what does your life look like in 5 years time?
What does your business look like? How much money are you earning? What does your life look like?
Sometimes, the reason people lack confidence relates to events or situations that have happened in the past.
If you think about where you are at now, you can usually attribute to one or more events that have happened in the past that have significantly affected you.
That have impacted your confidence and continue to do so.
You need to explore these events/situations now, and then, let them go.
You may not think that this is focused on you, but it is in a way.
Start by offering to help people.
This might be at work, in the local community, on social media platforms.
When people receive your help, and are appreciative of the time and support that they give you, they are reaffirming your expertise and your confidence.
When you help other people, to help them to reach their goals, it will make you feel good, and will start to help you build your confidence and assert your expertise.
The next step is to start to set small goals for yourself.
And then rewarding yourself for them.
Set your goal, take steps to achieve the goal, and then reward yourself for changing your behaviour and getting the win.
For example, think of going to the gym.
Set yourself a goal of going to the gym 3 times a week.
Change your routine so that you achieve that goal – set your alarm to get up early; make sure you have time in your diary during the day, or finish work early in the evening.
Once you have done this for three weeks (it takes 3 weeks to form a habit or change behaviour), then reward yourself.
It might be some new workout gear, or a pair of shoes – something that will help you continue to reach your goal.
This is something that you need to continue to do for up to 6 months.
Everyone experiences negativity in their life at one point in time or another.
This could be in the form of events or people.
You have the power to remove them – partially or completely – from your life.
In order to continue to build your self-confidence, you need to create a life that supports you.
Negative people or situations do not support this.
Some people may think that visualisation is a bunch of fooey and a gimic.
But it is not.
In order to be confident and successful, you need to have set yourself goals.
Without having goals in place, you cannot move forward.
Visualisation is not about hoping or dreaming for something to come true.
And then crossing your fingers and waiting for it to happen.
Visualisation is about creating a mental image or thought of a future event.
When we visualize our desired outcome, we begin to “see” the possibility of achieving it.
Through visualization, we catch a glimpse of what is, in the words of one writer, our “preferred future.”
When this happens, you become motivated and get prepared to chase that goal.
Why Use Visualisation?
Visualization works because neurons in our brains, interpret images as equivalent to a real-life action.
When we visualize an act, the brain generates an impulse that tells these neurons to “perform” the movement.
This creates a new pathway in our brains — clusters of cells in our brain that work together to create memories and other learned behaviors — that teaches our body to act in a way consistent to what we imagined.
All of this occurs without actually performing the physical activity, yet it achieves a similar result.
There you have it, 6 ways how to build self confidence.
There is no quick solution but trying out these techniques will help you build self confidence over time.